By Anthony Malibu

Unwanted breakups are tough, but so is the process of getting back together. Before you make a single move in your ex boyfriend’s direction, you need to know exactly what to do that will make him want you again.

“I think we might be better off apart…”

Exactly how did your boyfriend break up with you? Did he ask for ‘time off’ from the relationship, or did he just flat out tell you things between you weren’t working? However it happened, your romance has ended. There’s no bringing it back, and nothing you can do or say right now is going to change your boyfriend’s mind.

That said, your next question is easy:

How can I get my boyfriend back?

As simple as the question may sound, the answer is a lot more complicated. Because while it’s always possible to reverse your breakup (yes, even when things seem overwhelmingly hopeless), the road you take to reconciliation is often very difficult. For every right way to get your ex to want you back, there are a hundred wrong ones.

The biggest problem is that most women take a selfish approach to winning back an ex boyfriend. Now they don’t

mean

to be selfish… and in fact they’re willing to give up almost anything to get back together. At the same time however, these women are focused on only one thing: how

they

feel. In an effort to save their dying relationship, they end up cramming their own feelings and emotions down their exboyfriend’s throat.

In short, you need to consider your ex boyfriend’s feelings if you want him back. You need to snap out of your depression, clear your head, stop feeling sorry for yourself, and finally start putting yourself in

his shoes

. Because once you can see things from your ex’s perspective? You’ll know exactly what’s needed to make him want you back in his life again.

Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back – First Moves

What have you done so far to fix your breakup? Have you explained your side of things? Told him how much you love him? Let your ex know you can’t live without him, and that he makes you happier than you ever have been before?

Unfortunately, all of these things are pretty frightening to a guy who just broke up with you. He’s looking to take a step back and process the breakup, and instead of letting him do this you’re overwhelming your ex with your own feelings and emotions. By not allowing him his space, you’re changing his opinion of you. Over time, your boyfriend will rapidly lose respect for the cool, confident, and independent girl he once dated.

Understand something: you can’t get back together with your ex boyfriend until

he wants you again

. Period.

No amount of begging, pleading, reasoning, or logic will help your cause. You can promise him the world right now, and it’s not going to matter. Your ex knows that everything you do is geared toward getting him back, and so his guard is up. And while you’re taking this kind of approach, your boyfriend will never let down his defenses.

So how can you get your ex back? What should you do right now?

Well for starters, you need to withdraw in much the same way your ex has. So he broke up with you? Good. No big deal. Walk away calmly and rationally. Let your ex know that yes, things probably

haven’t

been good between you lately, and that yes, you’ve felt it too. Perhaps breaking up is the best thing for the both of you, and so you wish him well, with no hard feelings.

What happens here is astonishing: your ex begins to question why

you

are rejecting

him

. Suddenly things aren’t so one-sided, and your boyfriend can’t understand why. Up until this moment he thought you were head over heels for your relationship, and now it seems as if problems always existed. Your ex will wonder what he did wrong to make you walk away so nonchalantly and uncaringly from the breakup.

Guess what? You’ve just regained your ex boyfriend’s respect. This is the very first step on the path to getting back together, and to making him realize he wants to still be with you.

Getting Your Ex To Miss You – Best Techniques

Ever miss someone? That’s probably because they were gone a while. So how do you expect your ex boyfriend to miss you if you don’t go away?

Withdrawal techniques are the best way to get your exboyfriend interested in you again. When you’re out of sight you’re definitely not out of mind… and in fact your ex will think about you more when he’s not sure about where you are and what you’re doing.

To get your boyfriend back you need him to see you as something to be desired. You can’t hang around, try to be friends, send him ‘innocent’ text-messages or any of that silly nonsense. To make your ex want you back you need to have a life of your own – a fun, happy, exciting life that suddenly

doesn’t include him

.

Making your ex boyfriend jealous is just one method you can use to speed up the process of reconciliation. When your ex sees you as someone fun and attractive, he’ll have to question his decision to break things off. The longer he waits, the more he risks the possibility of losing you to someone else. These are the types of things that will make your boyfriend want you back, and they work much more effectively when you’re confident and charismatic.

Other Techniques That Will Get Him Back

In the end, getting an ex back is like everything else in life. The more you know? The better your chances for success.

If your relationship is valuable to you, don’t leave the process to chance. Learn exactly what to do to get started on winning your ex back, and best of all, exactly when to do it. Only by adapting a step-by-step plan can you set yourself up for a successful reunion.

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